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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Episode 22: You've Got a Friend in Me

Does friendship fit into #Adulting?

How do we make and keep friendships from college into adulthood? How do we get out there and meet people when we're in different life-stages and parts of the world?

The best friendships are made from a mix of trust and grace. This week, we chat about the friends who've meant the most to us, the friendships worth keeping and the ones we're at peace with letting go.

In this Episode:

  • How Facebook/Instagram tricks us into thinking we're closer to people than we actually are.
  • Can a friendship ending be as simple as a closing a chapter of life?
  • When we change, do our friendships follow suit? 
  • Are our adult friendships more meaningful now that we know we have to work a little harder for them?
  • Are extroverts misunderstood? 
  • Do introverts get an easy way out? 
  • How Friendships Change in Adulthood, from the Atlantic.

That's what she said:

  • "Make millennials great again!" -Sarah
  • "For adulthood friendships, I have to make a conscious decision to responsibly neglect other obligations in my life." -Brett
  • "Friendship is work. It's like a marriage. Both parties have to commit to pouring into the relationship." -Sarah
  • "We reeled her in with the promise of free alcohol." -Brett
  • "All of this is based on experience, which is the most valuable form of knowledge." -Sarah

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Episode 21: Enjoying the Big Ones

Big life events mean change, and that usually means lots of emotions. 

In this episode that starts with a nod to our 21st episode and birthday shenanigans (i.e. Brett discusses the Zac Efron cutout that made an appearance at her 21st - obviously you don’t want to miss this), we talk about some of our big moments in life and the feelings and anxieties that we experienced along with some advice for making the most of these moments moving forward. It’s a fun episode where we get pretty personal, so we hope you’ll join the conversation and let us know how you’re processing and planning for big life events, too!

In this episode:

  • We talk about how we felt during specific big life moments (so you’ll get a sneak peak into some of the sweetest, most stressful moments of our lives. Lucky you!)
  • We discuss the stress surrounding these moments, whether or not society has enhanced this stress, what actually matters during these moments and some tips for remaining present and grounded.

That’s what she said:

  • “You have to have some stress to get you going, or else you’ll just sit and watch New Girl forever.” -Sarah
  • “Ra ra ah ah ah…your face.” -Brett
  • “There’s no crying in therapy.” -Brett
“No, there is crying in therapy. There’s no crying in baseball.” -Sarah
  • “I think, with these big life events, that’s the thing - it’s not necessarily the life event itself, but it’s all of the change and feelings that come with these big changes.” -Brett
  • The access that we have and the habits that we have of posting the pretty moments from our lives, especially these big moments, it activates comparison for us. It doesn’t help.” -Sarah
  • “Everything is going to be ok on the other side.” -Brett (fair warning - this sparks a mini Hamilton sing-a-long)


Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Episode 20: Grace for the Busy Season

Slow down.

Say "no." Set up boundaries. Reserve time for yourself. Chase slow.

But this isn't always reality.

And further, what's the difference between being busy and having a full life?

Whether you've learned to say no to outside influences in the interest of protecting your time and your sanity, there may be things that you're meant to do that might inconvenience you or make you uncomfortable.

In this episode:

  • Has busy become a badge of honor?
  • Is busyness a reflection of our social status?
  • Should you feel compelled to reply to an email from a coworker after 11 p.m.? And are they perceived as a harder worker than you?
  • Does the message to "chase slow" in today's Christian/Inspirational memoirs, self-help books and blogs work for everyone?

That's what she said:

  • "There is a danger in saying 'no' too much and too often." -Brett
  • "Are you an ENFP, Jesus?" -Sarah
  • "There's a difference between busy and chaos. What if busy just meant 'full?' What if it meant you had a full life and obligations to be a part of a community, be a faithful worker, friend, spouse?" -Brett
  • "I don't think God calls us to let everything fall off. You have a responsibility to your family, your job and your debts." -Sarah
  • "I want to continue to live a life of service." -Sarah
  • "Busy work versus Kingdom work: you can ask yourself will this edify myself or will this enrich the life of someone else?" -Brett
  • "A lot of the time Kingdom work is something that we don't feel like doing." -Brett


Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Episode 19: Let's Get Spiritually Healthy

So. How's your spiritual health?

It's not a question we ask each other a lot. And if we're honest, we don't ask it of ourselves much either. But here on the PSP, we tackle the hard subjects. That's exactly what we've done this week as we discuss the vulnerable and yet ethereal topic of spiritual health. 

In This Episode We Chat About:

  • Being willing to have a hard conversation with people you trust.
  • Counseling as a way to gauge your own spiritual well-being.
  • Taking a step back from electronics, political commentary, and thinking that everyone is "the worst."
  • Getting plugged into a community.
  • Taking this health assessment for yourself and on behalf of a friend!

That's What She Said:

  • "Authenticity is the mother of great podcasts." -Brett
  • "Turning to the light isn't always the easiest thing to do, but it's certainly the warmest. Aw!" -Sarah
  • "Use your words, number people." -Sarah
  • "It's definitely a fight to keep your spirit in check." -Brett
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